IS YOUR WEDDING DJ’S MUSIC TOO LOUD?

It is a huge honor to be in the category of elite Central Pennsylvania Wedding DJs. As the owner of Ross Productions, I try to listen attentively to our clients for compliments and concerns in order to constantly try to improve our service.

Although we rarely receive complaints, I recently was reminded that there is one complaint I hear a lot, so often that I’ve nearly become immune to it.

We have a policy when this happens: our DJs immediately walk from behind their DJ table/booth to double check the volume out front, we’ll walk around the room, and if warranted, we will always adjust the volume accordingly. But you can imagine what it’s like for a DJ to get a complaint from 1 or 2 people every night about the music being too loud, especially when hundreds of other guests never say anything at all. I have even had to ask myself if my hearing was going bad, but I am pretty sure it’s not. Some people are just very sensitive to loud music, particularly elderly people.

I have even had complaints where a client felt I should move my DJ set-up, (speakers and all) after a few guests complained that the speakers were blaring in their ears. The problem wasn’t that the music was extremely loud, this was during dinner, however, this table was right next to my DJ system, right in the line of fire of my speakers, and coincidentally, this table had all of the elderly guests seated there. The client’s Event Planner placed me there earlier in the day before any guests had arrived. The floor space was cramped, and although there was an empty stage at one end of the room, I was not instructed to set up on it. Most Event Planners approve the floor plan without ever consulting the DJ, and in their defense, having me on this huge stage all by my self would have looked odd and out of character for the type of event it was. Looking back on it, perhaps I should have overridden the Event Planner, but I assumed I was being placed where the Bride approved me to be. Moving my set up in the middle of the event would have taken at least 30 minutes, it would have been terribly distracting and it just wasn’t an option. Instead, we asked the elderly guests who were seated at this table if they would mind changing tables with a group of 20-somethings on the other end of the room. This wasn’t optimal, but it was our best shot. Problem solved, right? Well almost.

This particular room was acoustically tricky no matter what you did or where you placed the DJ. Wood floors, high ceilings, and other hard surfaces make for a very “live” and “boomy” sounding room. It’s a nightmare for sound technicians. The obvious fix seems to be “add more speakers”. In a perfect world where clients have unlimited budgets for their events, we can optimize sound in a larger room by having “zones” of numerous speakers throughout the room, controlled individually instead of relying on the traditional 1 set of speakers to cover a room. However, this is very a costly option and it’s just not done very often. The typical DJ setup uses 2 speakers placed on either side of the dancefloor or either side of the DJ’s table, and this generally covers the sound in most rooms with no problems. Of course, all of our DJs use professional sound gear, and in most cases, just 2 of the types of speakers we use will accommodate the average wedding or party of up to about 225 guests, inside or out. For larger parties, we bring in more sound gear. But laws of nature are, well, laws. The closer you are to a sound source, the louder it will be. Though speaker technology has improved greatly in the past 10-15 years, there are still sensitive ears that can’t take music at any level.  It is best to plan with this in mind.

If you’re planning a Wedding or Special Event with amplified music, I have listed some suggestion to help you avoid or limit complaints about the volume of music or sound at your Event.

And here are a few things Clients can do to avoid sound complaints from their guests:

1. Make sure that you approve the placement of the DJ before the day of your event. Ask questions about the logistics and acoustics of the room. Ask the DJ for advice and be sure to clear this up before the DJ arrives and is completely set up. It’s likely that if the DJ has to move his equipment, you’ll receive a bill. It takes time and is very distracting to move equipment.
2. Place the DJ near the Dance Floor, and if possible, do not place any table with guests directly beside the DJ. It’s always louder at the DJ booth or near the speakers.
3. Do not place Elderly Guests anywhere near the DJ speakers, they are almost always sensitive to loud noise and they will likely complain. Help make their time more enjoyable and seat them a bit further from the dance floor or designated DJ set up area.
4. Allow your DJ plenty of room for his sound system and setup. Depending on how large your party is and the equipment you rented (i.e. upgraded lights or sound system, movie screens, etc..) the DJ may need a very large space. Most event facilities will show you a diagram of exactly where the DJ will be placed and it’s a good idea to go over this with your DJ a few days before the event.

This Noise Problem can also go the opposite direction. We have had people complain that the music wasn’t loud enough. Since we are primarily Central PA DJs, we have to be concerned with noise ordinances in many of the event locations we work. We adhere to those ordinances. Your event facility should tell you about an ordinance if they have one, and you should always ask. At the event we generally alert the guests that we have a noise ordinance to adhere to if we receive too many complaints.

Keep in mind, a  DJ is hired to improve the entertainment value of your event, not detract from it. We are passionate about what we do here at Ross Productions, and we want your event to be the best that it can be. If you have more questions about DJ sound systems and requirements, where to place the DJ at your event, or about and Ventura County noise ordinances, please feel free to contact me.

Happy Planning!

Here are a few steps our DJs take to help with this matter:

1. We Elevate the speakers on Professional Speaker Stands: This gets the sound above the seated guests and helps throw the sound further without having to turn up the volume.
2. We Adjust levels if guests or event managers complain.
3. We keep the volume of music lower during dinner and cocktails and raise it when dancing begins. Our DJs Continually monitor volume levels with professional mixers and our professional ears.

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WEDDING TOASTS: 10 HELPFUL TIPS; 10 WORST TOASTS

I’ve been a Los Angeles DJ for 20 years and I have seen thousands of Wedding Toasts. Many have been really good, some bad, a few immensely entertaining, and several downright bore fests. I have also had the honor of being Best Man on two occasions, and I quickly realized  I’m no expert in giving toasts. However, I know that a wedding toast is an opportunity for the best man, maid of honor, family members or friends to share in their joy for the newlywed couple.  When I was asked to be a best man at my Brother’s and Best Friend’s Wedding, I thought about and planned what I would say for months. Even though I am a professional DJ, I still found that I was nervous about giving a toast at a Wedding. A toast is an intimate moment, all eyes and ears are on you, and this moment will be remembered by most in attendance, especially if it goes poorly.

But, don’t worry if you’re not a professional speaker, you don’t need to be. Just keep these few points in mind:

1. Don’t get long winded, keep it under 3-4 minutes. Rehearse the basic points of what you want to say, do not just grab the microphone and start talking.

2. Don’t give the audience an entire history of how you know the Bride or Groom. Give some basic points about the nature of your relationship to them and talk about how happy you are for this couple.

3. If you have nothing nice to say, or you have some resentments about this wedding, don’t say anything. Allow the couple to enjoy this moment, despite what you think of their marriage.

4. Be sincere! If you’re sincere in your joy for the couple, your speech will have all of the right elements of being sweet, sappy, and funny, without seeming contrived.

5. If you aren’t a stand up comedian and you want to be, now is not the time to try out your material. Keep it simple, and don’t try too hard.

6. All toasts seem to have funny stories about the bride or groom which is great, but keep in mind if someone were toasting you, you wouldn’t want something said that would be embarrassing nor do you want any secrets revealed to the friends and family. Try to leave embarrassing facts for drunken nights at the bar, not at a wedding.

7. Remember to Thank the Family’s of the Bride and Groom who were at least partly responsible for this great occasion. Express your gratitude to the Bride and Groom for allowing you to be a part of their most special day, and offer a general thank you to all the guests.

8. Many people seem to have trouble remembering that The Microphone will not work unless you hold it close to your mouth when you speak. If you need to hold items such as notes or props, ask the DJ or MC to place the Microphone on a stand for you. Otherwise practice your speech by holding a hairbrush like a microphone. Also, try to stand still, moving around too much makes you seem nervous and it’s uncomfortable to watch.

9. It’s ok to cry. If you are really emotional, try to pull yourself together before you speak…if you get really torn up during your speech, think about ending your speech early rather than making the audience really uncomfortable. But, if you cry a little, you can be sure there won’t be many dry eyes in the house.

10. And Finally, remember to take your glass with you when you’re giving the toast and at then end of your speech Raise your glass, then ask everyone to raise their glasses, and formally offer a toast the Bride and Groom.

So as you start to plan your toast for the big day here are some wedding toasts that made the guests run for the hills rather than share in the joy. This article on Wedding Toasts from “The Knot” caught my attention 10 Worst Wedding Toasts Ever.

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MOTHER-SON DANCE SONG IDEAS FOR WEDDINGS, WITH AUDIO/VIDEO SAMPLES!

The Mother Son Dance is a relatively recent trend at Weddings, but because most of the attention is on the bride and her family, this is a great way for the Groom to have a nice moment to share with his mother.

Here’s a list of the most popular requests we’ve gotten for the “Mother-Son Dance Songs” also known as the “Groom and Mother Wedding Dance.” Feel free to leave us your suggestions as well, we’d love to hear from you! Click on the songs in Pink to redirect to “youtube” and hear a sample of the song, but remember to click the back button to return to our site! If these are too sappy for you and your mom, pick something more fun and upbeat. It’s your wedding, do what you want!

If you’re looking for Father-Daughter Dance Songs Click Here!!

These songs are in no particular order:

1. Unforgettable– Nat King Cole (also w/Natalie Cole)
2. In My Life – The Beatles
3. What a Wonderful World– Louis Armstrong
4. A Song For Mama– Boys II Men
5. Blessed– Elton John
6. Have I Told you Lately That I Love You– Rod Stewart or Van Morrison
7. I Hope You Dance– Leanne Womack
8. My Wish– Rascal Flatts
9. You are the Sunshine of My Life– Stevie Wonder
10. You Raised Me Up– Josh Groban
11. Because You Loved Me– Celine Dion
12. Close to You– Carpenters
13. God Bless the Child– Tony Bennett (other artists)
14. Mama’s Don’t Let Your Babies Grow Up to be Cowboys– Waylon Jennings & Willie Nelson

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HOW TO HAVE A MEANINGFUL MITZVAH CELEBRATION WITHOUT BREAKING THE BANK

I speak regularly with families who are concerned about the costs of having a Bar or Bat Mitzvah party for their child.

There seem to be two schools of thought on good Mitzvah celebrations. In the first group are parents who pull out all the stops and throw a big, flashy party. If this describes what you want – go for it. Be prepared both for significant costs and a great party. Remember that the best Mitzvah’s manage to keep the focus on your child and the spirit of the occasion, no matter what the final budget of the event.

But what if you want something less flashy, less expensive, and just as (or maybe more) meaningful? In this group are families who are not interested in trying to out-do others on spectacle. The best part of planning a party for this second group is that you’re already focused on the heart of the event: planning a special, memorable and fun family party that incorporates Jewish tradition, special ceremonies and good times.

Here’s how you can have a special, exciting and memorable mitzvah party for your child without having to take out a second mortgage on your home!

1.  CHOOSING A VENUE

Choose a venue that has great dynamics for a party vs just a room in a fancy building – look for a large main room sized to the number of guests, allow for some alcoves/smaller areas that allow people to get away to talk, that has clean restrooms, and that has easy access for setup and takedown.

2.  PARTY FAVORS

Choose inexpensive but interesting party favors to hand out to guests as a special memento

3.  GAMES

Choose game prizes like I-Tunes gift cards, $2 bills, or other small chatchkis; small gift bags

4.  CHOOSING DECOR & PHOTO BOOTH

Make good use of simple fabric backdrops and up-lighting to make the room look beautiful. Use your photos, videos, and LCD projectors to best advantage. In some rooms this may be off to the side; in others your slideshows may be part of the main event. Think about interactivity for your guests. A digital snap shot booth, a live camera fed to a projector, a fun game table off to the side, and so on. Keep the focus on your child and your guests.

7.  DELAGATING

If you are the host parent, then delegate, delegate, delegate even if you are not hiring coordinators. This leaves you free to work the room and relax. Sweat the details of the guest list. A good party starts with a good crowd.

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CHOOSING A DJ FOR AN LGBT WEDDING

In the “New World” of gender anonymity and marriages without conventional constraints, we try to find new ways to open our business to all that are in love and wish to celebrate. When a gay or lesbian couple gets engaged, they are met with happy greetings and best wishes from their friends and families. We hope that they find they same happiness from Wedding Vendors. When it comes to planning a Wedding Celebration,  Our Los Angeles Wedding DJs know that few things differ from heterosexual and Same-Sex and (LGBT) Weddings. LGBT couples may face some challenges in the planning and preparation of a wedding that straight couples do not but, the planning process carries on as it would for the traditional husband and wife scenario; the location, invitations, menu selections, floral arrangements, outfits, and, even the DJ.

As a wedding/event DJ company we don’t have a specific “same-sex” package because every wedding is specific and unique in it’s own way. We don’t feel a need to cater to a specialty market. We don’t want to keep with the old ways of pointing out when things are different, but rather, point out when things are special. The music you choose, the ceremony you dreamed of — it’s all part of what a couple has imagined since they first began talking with each other about the possibility of having a wedding. Gay and Lesbian couples face a lot of the same challenges and excitement that straight couples do.  Anyone who is having a wedding nowadays loves to go on Facebook or other social media sites to post all about their big day, they disagree about color patterns and budgets, and which vendors to hire, and they get nervous about walking down the aisle, and they argue over which song will be used for their First Dance as a Married Couple.  As seasoned, experienced and professional Wedding DJs in Los Angeles, we recognize some of the differences that are unavoidable, but we also know that, at the end of the day, hiring a DJ for a LGBT or “Same-sex” wedding celebration is no different than a straight wedding in this regard:  The trick to having a great DJ at your event is having someone who sees it as a special day and nothing out of the norm.  It’s a wedding and that’s that. The vows may be a little different and you may have two Father/Daughter dances or a Mother/Daughter or  Father/Son dance, or some other special highlight that doesn’t always show up in a typical Male-Female “Straight” Wedding.  The music and Mc’ing should still be executed professionally just as they would for any event.  It’s our job as the DJ to help you plan those announcements, to realize your vision for the perfect music for each portion of the event, and to execute it to perfection.

There are some unique decisions and concerns that a same-sex couples may face during their planning, for example, straight couples may worry about the look of their outfits, but it’s not because they’re worried about their gender identity being misunderstood, and we know that this may be a concern among some sex-sex couples.  Some LGBT couples might be concerned that the family members or wedding party members use the correct pronoun when mentioning them in a toast. Those factors are common, but it’s the responsibility of the DJ/MC to make sure those issues are dealt with before the wedding day arrives, and that he or she understands your wishes and executes them. Whether you’re Jewish and you bless the Challah, or you’re Chinese and you change into a ceremonial Red Dress mid-wedding, your DJ should be professional and adaptable, even if he/she has never worked for a wedding that has your particular unique concerns. You want your DJ to understand these points and to incorporate them into the event just as he/she would any event… but not go over overboard and feel manufactured or to make you feel uncomfortable by his/her overly enthusiastic approach to a Gay Wedding, as if it were something so out of the ordinary that the DJ needs to bring special attention to it.  Our DJs simply don’t feel that way. We are here to make your moment with your best friend, your partner and your fiance the most special day that it can be.  We recognize the historical significance of the recent freedoms and progress gained within the Gay Community, but we never want our clients to feel singled out, or that their DJ is uncomfortable or unfamiliar with Gay wedding celebrations.  Long before same sex marriage was “Legal” in any state, we have been called upon to provide music and entertainment for the celebration of same-sex unions.  The future is always moving. Lifestyles are changing, families are no longer the stereotypical “TV family”, and weddings will continue to evolve, even beyond what we know them as today. For our Wedding DJ services, little has changed, and we want our customers to know that we are completely open and accepting of our same-sex couples and clients. The DJ’s of Elegant Event Entertainment don’t see people as categories, rather, we see two people sharing a night of love, family, food, drinks, and of course, dancing!! We wish all the best to every happy couple pledging endless love to their soulmates!!

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